Present Tense

Time to try a new nut……

Several months ago, I stated on my Facebook status that pistachios were the world’s finest nut.  This past week I changed my mind and proclaimed that the macadamia is indeed, a better nut.  It was meant as a whimsical observation that might spark a little harmless controversy.  Mission accomplished.

But, I had a deeper point and that is that we CAN change our minds; we can alter long standing beliefs and opinions and it’s okay.  In fact, let’s encourage it.

I still love pistachios…and cashews…and almonds…and pecans…but not Brazil nuts (too much nut) and yet, I have decided that the macadamia has the perfect size, crunch, texture and taste.  For now.

To everyone who argued with me about this, I asked them to open their mind.  Just because they were part of team cashew didn’t mean they couldn’t re-examine their beliefs.  If you pick up a macadamia nut with the firm belief that you much prefer the cashew, you’ll never REALLY taste that macadamia.  Let the old bias go and try something new on for size. Baby steps to growth and awakening.

The nut discussion is obviously a metaphor for all of our long held beliefs and preferences, whether it’s religion or politics or prejudice against other people. We see so many things through the filter of ‘like/don’t like’, ‘agree/don’t agree’, ‘right/wrong’.  Wouldn’t it be great if we just put aside the preferences and biases and listened and consumed with an open mind?  One Buddhist teacher calls it “don’t know mind”.

I’ve written a lot about my mission to let go of stuff that hasn’t been working for me; to begin to embrace new ideas or old ideas that I used to reject and in order to do that, I have to leave my mind open.  Meditation is helping me prop it open, at least part way.  I’m honestly beginning to see things with more calm, clarity and compassion.  That’s a big step for someone who used to fight mightily to be ‘right’.

Think of it this way:  when you were a kid and your mom plunked something new in front of you for dinner and you whined that you didn’t like it.  Moms universally say, “How do you know if you don’t try it”?  We are grown ups now and we still tend to default to not liking things that challenge what we think is true or are comfortable with.  My little journey has taught me that comfortable is overrated.  If all we seek is comfort and security, we are blind to reality and that leads to unhealthy behaviors.

So, think about how often you reject; how often you don’t like.  Stop it.  Open up.  Set aside the pistachio and just TRY the macadamia with a new outlook.  Really taste it and consider it.  I guess it’s time I gave the Brazil nut another chance.

April 27, 2013 - Posted by | Musings | , , , , , ,


  1. So true. If our minds are closed, we will stay stuck in our old ways and miss out on experiencing some new and wonderful things.

    Comment by imconfident | April 27, 2013 | Reply

  2. Very true. Billy and I have run in to some of this with one of our classmates on here and it really become counter-productive. So, we deleted them. That is a choice you have to make sometimes too right? To just walk away. To agree to disagree. I was really amazed at how calming that was to just cut off the hate and negative vibes I was getting. By the way, peanuts, in the shell is the ultimate sports nut, hands down. T.

    Comment by Tim | April 27, 2013 | Reply

  3. Being uncomfortable, accepting of change, is what helps us discover who we are, it makes us alive. My sister doesn’t like nuts, at all…should I be concerned for her?

    Comment by Lori | April 27, 2013 | Reply

    • Lori:
      Feel free to use fruit as a metaphor with your sister:)

      Comment by janelondon | April 27, 2013 | Reply

  4. Over the last few years I have been working at having a more open mind than in the past .You learn more that wif you really listen to another and try new things.

    Comment by Eileen Stortz | April 27, 2013 | Reply

  5. Very well put!!

    Comment by marge beem | April 27, 2013 | Reply

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