Present Tense

Go ahead….leap

We are settling into our new home.  Actually, settling takes a while.  We are unpacking our new life.  Truthfully, it kind of feels as if we are unpacking our old life, in the new place.  Thankfully, we still need a lot of stuff from our old life.

Even though this house is smaller and not as nice as the last one, I feel comfortable here and though I’ve never lived in northern Michigan before, it feels familiar.  I keep running across fellow graduates of Central Michigan University.  Today, I discovered that my AT&T rep not only went to CMU, but his wife is from my home town and graduated from the same high school that I did.

That may seem silly, but it means something to me.  I blend in, yet have no real history in this area.  A clean slate.

When I announced that I was leaving Colorado, but not leaving my job, I was kind of surprised at the response from some folks who listen to my radio show.  I’ve been on the Dom and Jane Show in Denver for over 14 years, meaning that a two-way bond has formed, so I should have seen it coming.

I’ve always prided myself on being honest on the radio.  I don’t hold back; my reactions and conversations on the air are real.  I’m not an actress or playing some ‘role’ that was constructed for me.  What you hear, is what you get.

So, when I laid out my honest reasons for moving:  a need to be closer to my elderly parents and to satisfy my husband’s wishes to move back to the Midwest and his family, I wasn’t prepared for the reactions that ranged from sadness to anger to subtle accusations of abandonment.

At first, I was feeling a tiny bit angry that everyone wasn’t as happy as I was.  I had made a very personal decision about my life and when I shared it publicly, I didn’t quite feel supported.

But, I get it now.  Since it was a choice about my life and my goals and my needs, it really doesn’t matter what others might think or need or wish for me.  The bottom line is that’s why I made this change.  For me. For my family.  For my life.

And that’s the lesson, isn’t it?  You can’t live for other people, even if they rely on you to entertain them or make them think or accompany them on their morning commute.

I love my job, which is why I will continue to do it, from an extra bedroom at my new home 1500 miles away from my old home.  That bond still exists.  It doesn’t matter WHERE we connect from, but only that we connect.  We live in a mobile world and yet we are probably MORE connected than we’ve ever been.  Granted, much of that connection might be through technology, via media or social networking, but that’s us in 2013.

So, if you’re feeling the urge to break away from your comfort zone; if you are standing on a cliff, struggling to make a leap to something new that is tugging at your soul.  Do it.  People will cling and try to talk you out of it.  They will make it about them, when it’s really about you.  Stay true to you.  Do it for you.  They’ll adapt and maybe they’ll be inspired by your courage.  Go on.  Leap.

July 2, 2013 - Posted by | Musings | , , , , , , , ,

20 Comments »

  1. Thank You Jane, for bringing to mind through your blogs, things which hit very close to home & ignited a spark for me 🙂

    Comment by benzintensiveme | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • My pleasure. Thanks for the note!
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  2. Jane, I believe it is part of the human condition to filter everything through the lens of “me”. It is only when we step outside of our desires for ourselves that we can experience the best we can be. It is sort of humorous to me that I “miss” you , though we have never met face to face. Your voice will be with me in the morning as it has been for years now. It could have been a funny experiment to wait until you had been in Michigan for a few weeks to make your announcement — who would have known? It is a testament to your honesty and “this is who I am” approach that you even mentioned it. Thanks for trusting us and enjoy the newness of everything. The connection I feel to you — morning time and Mountain Pet Rescue — make me say, “Enjoy this, friend.” Peace to you and yours.

    Comment by Susan Herr | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Susan,
      I completely agree, which is why I took my time before writing this. I had to get through the process and the goodbyes and leave Denver in the rear view mirror before I was able to see things clearly.
      We all IMMEDIATELY process change by asking “what does this mean for me”. I’m just as guilty, although I’m trying to learn to sit with change and not overreact.
      Thanks for the note. I really appreciate it.
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  3. Jane…I’m so happy for you and prince charming! I HAVE TO ADMIT wHEN you MADE THE ANNOUNCEMENT…..I WAS ANGRY! I met your so contagious laugh six years ago at a diffficult time in my life…going back to work after staying home with the kids….I resented it..but you and Dom and the rest of the crew got me through it. I love my job…same one….but you’re right….you touched my life and I connected with you…..I took it personally. I’ve always been a proponent of recognizing seasons of your life and that when it’s over you must move on and sometimes it means taking a leap into the next season! Thanks Jane for your candidness and to the point attitude and I’ll “hear ” you when you get back!

    Comment by Adelle Cullimber | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Adelle
      Thanks for the note. Glad we were there for you during a tough time. That means a lot that you took the time to write.
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  4. I was one of the sad ones… but I’m HAPPY for YOU! Yea!!!! I love your new life for you!

    Comment by Kandis Glasgow | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Got my ‘gratitude’ stone, right here on the desk of my office/studio:)
      J

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  5. Jane,

    Thank you for this post. It is hard to fend for something you love when others don’t share your perspective. As you stated, your show will continue to remain the same, and you could have played it off as if you were still in studio with Dom, but through the integrity that you have shown, you told your listeners and friends. Thank you. You have shown us it is ok to do what we want, and put our personal priorities in front.

    Comment by Todd | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Todd
      Thanks for the note. Much appreciated!
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  6. Jane, you have to do what you have to do. I left MI. in 1969, to Utica, NY. Now I am in Denver because my son, daughter-in-law and grandsons are here. We all have to make choices. I am just happy you are able to stay with The Dom &Jane Show (my favorite AM program for 10 years). Enjoy your life, while I enjoy your part in my favorite rado program.
    Keith

    Comment by Keith w. Mobley | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Keith:
      Thanks for the note and the kind words.
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  7. You always inspire me! I have a tough decision right now and this is exactly the perspective I needed!!!!

    Comment by Angie | July 2, 2013 | Reply

    • Jane. You did the right thing, do not second guess your decision.

      Comment by Keith w. Mobley | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  8. YEAH JANE!! I. Am looking for this courage BEST OF LUCK to you and Demus I will miss you though

    Comment by marge beem | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  9. Change is wonderful, I left Denver after 28 years and frankly, have never looked back! Except for the Dom & Jane show (ok, and the Piper Inn!), I don’t miss it at all. So thrilled you too are following your dreams, it feels so good to have that freedom to do so. AND I still have you and Dom…all the way out there in California! I wish you the best in your new home.

    Comment by Terri | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  10. Hi Jane. Great post today….lucky you that you can do your job from far away. I just changed up a lot of things in my life too. One of them was leaving a job that made me unhappy to go to work every day but it paid really well.

    Here I am 9 months in and it still feels like the right decision and I am still alive and well and paying the bills. Except I am happy now. It is so important to follow what you need to do, despite others who think otherwise.

    Comment by Try New Things | July 2, 2013 | Reply

  11. Hi Jane – I am so excited for you and Prince Charming in your new endeavors, and I’m also selfishly excited for myself that you will still continue the Dom and Jane Show. I love the fact that you are taking all of the fabulous areas of your life and doing them all at once. Best of Luck!!

    Comment by Jennifer | July 3, 2013 | Reply

  12. Very well said Jane……Bravo!!

    Comment by Denise Loftis | July 3, 2013 | Reply

  13. I had a greeting card tacked to my car sun visor for months back in 2006-2007 when I knew I needed to make a major life change, so that I would see it daily and use as my mantra: “Leap and the net will appear.” I leapt and I have never been happier or more content. Thanks for this important reminder and best wishes in your new home!

    Comment by Francesca Amari, Audiobook Director | July 3, 2013 | Reply


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