Present Tense

To my Tribe…

friendship-63743_640Yesterday’s meditation was about gratitude. A lot of guided meditations reference gratitude, since many of us tend to focus on what’s wrong with our lives or the world, rather than what’s right. I happen to tend toward the former and have to be regularly reminded of the latter.

Having said that, there is also reason to be grateful for some of the not so good things in our lives. Our reaction to the more painful and uncomfortable things can be good; the suffering often acts as fertilizer. It promotes growth when we realize that we can not only survive difficult situations, but learn valuable lessons from them.

Our challenges often promote a surge of empathy for others in similar circumstances and if we look clearly and closely, we see that every single human on earth is navigating through their own obstacle course. That awareness makes us more patient and kind and forgiving and I believe, happier. In my experience and opinion, empathy is the precursor for kindness and compassion. And we all need more of that. If you watch any news at all, you know in your core that the world needs more of that.

So, back to gratitude. During my meditation yesterday, I began to relax and mentally list what I was grateful for and I started with my husband, my dogs, my family and my home. Then as I widened the circle, I began to see my friends and I began to smile, then laugh and then I felt an intense surge of emotion that I can only describe as love and light and tenderness toward these people who mean so much to me.

It was a moment of light and clarity that I wish happened more often while sitting in meditation. I tend to get caught up in the day to day administrative aspects of life. Bills, paycheck, household chores, errands, appointments, job, blah, blah, blah. Those things occupy too much of my personal hard drive and it takes sitting quietly, watching my breath, to remind me of the important stuff; the things that fill my soul. It’s taken me a long time to realize that those soul-fillers are my tribe. My humans; people that I’ve picked or have picked me.

So, yes. I’m grateful for all of you. You are my tribe and I love you.

August 24, 2014 - Posted by | Musings


  1. Awwww! Right back attcha!!!

    Comment by shellybelly12 | August 24, 2014 | Reply

  2. Jane, I think the wonderful thing about being more sensitive and empathetic is that it breeds more of the same. Once you try it and feel it, you just feel better doing it than not. I feel blessed to have the opportunity to see situations with my clients, who are children, and families who struggle. This gives me the opportunity to be empathetic on a daily basis. The more I am, the better I feel and the less tolerance I have for people in my life who do not feel the same way. People who blame others and make excuses for why we allow so many to have so little are #1 on my list right now. I believe empathy is something that we get better at, which leaves hope for the many who fail to show it.

    I am glad to consider you my friend.

    Comment by Tim Lankerd, Ann Arbor, Mi. | August 24, 2014 | Reply

    • Tim:
      Exactly. I agree 100 percent. On all counts. Thanks for the comment and for being you!

      Comment by janelondon | August 24, 2014 | Reply

  3. MMMMMM….warm fuzzies. Love it. Love you!!!

    Comment by talktraffic28 | August 24, 2014 | Reply

  4. Thank you, Jane. I’m grateful for you too.
    I just finished reading a book that I highly recommend. It’s called “E squared” (E2) by Pam Grout. It is wonderful for affirming that the Universe (or God, or Buddha or the Dude – whatever you call it) is working with you, not against you.
    I wish you peace.

    Comment by Renee | August 25, 2014 | Reply

  5. Your blog is such an encouragement to me! Thank you for sharing openly and honestly. I am learning a lot from you! Thank you,

    Comment by Cathy | August 25, 2014 | Reply

  6. Only 1 thing to say. Right On.

    Comment by Keith | August 25, 2014 | Reply

  7. We all love you right back Jane! Sending hugs.

    Comment by Barbara | August 29, 2014 | Reply

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