Present Tense

You have changed me…

cropSince announcing my retirement from The Dom and Jane Show earlier this week, my inbox has been full of well-wishes and very kind notes. I sort of feel as if I’m being allowed to attend my own funeral.

I’ve had a job in the public eye for over 30 years, which is the majority of my adult life. I do not consider myself famous by any stretch, but on any given day, several hundred thousand people tune into our show. Some love it, some hate it and anyone who is in the public eye, soon learns that the ones who are angry, disappointed or flat-out pissed, are usually the ones who are motivated to reach out.

For many years, those kinds of letters, emails, phone calls and now Facebook messages, penetrated pretty deeply for me. In my job as a radio host, I’ve been judged and critiqued by listeners, co-workers, consultants, clients, friends, family and occasionally, people who’ve never even heard my shows (“Ugh, I can’t stand anything on the radio that isn’t NPR”).

So, even though I’ve been successful and the Dom and Jane Show exceeded my wildest professional expectations, many of us who work in the media can be a little shell-shocked because we mostly hear from people who don’t like us. That’s why the past week has been so incredible.

The amount of love and appreciation that’s been sent my way has filled my spirit with a great deal of gratitude. I love that our show and my participation has had such a positive effect on people. I’ve heard from so many who listened for years with their kids on the way to school, from people who got a few laughs that eased whatever sorrow or pain they were dealing with and from so many who said they were sad that I was leaving, then told me to go forth and enjoy the rest of my life.

I’ve been so touched by the personal stories of how our show was a part of so many lives and it added a dimension to many of you, that I really didn’t quite understand over the years. We sit in a studio and talk to a void and there are times, I’m embarrassed to admit, that we forget that you’re out there. We can tend to get a little full of our selves.

You told me that you think of our little radio show as ‘family’ and that really touched me, since I know you all have real families and how much they mean to you, so to be included is a gift and one that I may not have treasured as I should have. You all have dreams and hurts and problems and crises and joy and tragedy and triumph and there may have been times when I didn’t celebrate or mourn those with you, even though you celebrated and empathized with me as I struggled with these same universal human issues.

So, thank you. Thank you for the lovely notes, for the funny and sometimes, sad memories, for reaching out to lift me up during kind of an emotional and precarious time as I stand on the edge of a huge life change. Anything that The Dom and Jane Show may have given you, you have repaid me a thousand times over.

As I head into my last 5 shows, I will do so with a full heart, knowing that I made an impact on you and more importantly, you made an impact on me.

November 15, 2014 - Posted by | Musings | , , , , , , , ,

37 Comments »

  1. How beautifully put – your heartfelt words have been heard and felt. Thank you for everything, Jane! Sending love…

    Comment by Erica | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  2. You are welcome!

    Comment by Carolyn Noroski Stillman | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  3. It is nice to know that you will always belong to all of us who enjoyed you for so long and shared so much with you. You may be elsewhere, but I am sure you will remain a part of a lot of lives. When we met, you were a real person, not some stuck on themselves radio personality, and I loved that.

    Comment by Marcia | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  4. Thank you Jane! You are loved and appreciated, and your presence will be missed. But you are right… so many of us consider you all family. So knowing that, know that I for one am so excited for you and PC and the furry kids and the apples and the spirits! Enjoy each day to the fullest. Best wishes always for you and your family, and hugs to your amazing Mom!

    Comment by Christine | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  5. Jane, I moved away from Denver area almost 6 years ago, but have kept up with the Dom and Jane show as often as I could when in town, listening to podcasts, and have truly enjoyed keeping up with you on FB and your blogs. Yes, you are family in so many ways! When someone has been in your life for 15 years, it’s hard to “lose” that connection.

    It has been a roller coaster for you, these last couple years, true. But here’s wishing you smooth sailing ahead – enjoy time with your mama and the peace and solitude of your farm.

    We’re not really LOSING you at all. Just a change. A big one for you. Embrace!

    Comment by Edie | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  6. Dear Jane
    I moved to Denver 10 years ago and after my first week here, the Dom and Jane Show was part of my morning commute. Even on my off days, you and Dom were on in my house. You will be missed. I always loved your humor. Best of luck in your future, enjoy your mom and PC.
    Sincerely
    Former Detroiter
    Keith

    Comment by Keith Mobley | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  7. Beautifully written and expressed you will be missed by many. And all the next wishes on your new journey. You will need to make guest appearances to keep your devoted fans and friends updated . Keep up the blogs they al are truly awesome and inspiring.

    Comment by marge beem | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  8. Jane,
    You will be missed dearly. I love hearing your point of views! Good luck in your future endeavors and enjoy all that you have reaped with your hard work.
    Blessings to you & P.C.

    Comment by audi | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  9. Jane,
    Thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself with us. It has been a pleasure to listen to you every morning since you joined the show. My husband has worked in radio and television and I know all to well the venom that people can spit at you when they can hide behind an email or screen name. I am so happy to know that you are receiving all the praise you deserve. Enjoy the new chapter of your life, but know that you will be missed.

    Comment by Victoria | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  10. Jane, I’ve lived in Colorado for almost 30 years now and have listened to your show on and off for quite some time! Love the wise cracking between you and Dom! There will always be naysayers and haters but how blessed you got to do what you love, not many people can say that…! Enjoy your “retirement”… maybe you’ll creep up in another way! Best of luck!! Becky in Parker,CO!!!

    Comment by BeckyB@Parker | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  11. There is family of chance and family of choice. I choose you

    Comment by ann woolford | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  12. Jane, I am on vacation next week. I usually sleep in and don’t listen to the show when I’m on vacation, I hate to admit, but I will be up this week listening! You will be missed. Please go forth, conquer, and enjoy! Maybe after Friday, you’ll be able to sleep in too! =)

    Comment by Sara Rino | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  13. My prediction is you get restless and begin what we can call “Lake Leelanau Days”. Break a leg in those last five shows and I think it is great for you to be able to finally realize how far your voice carried. T.

    Comment by Tim Lankerd, Ann Arbor, Mi. | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  14. Maybe a book is on the horizon?

    Comment by Karen Ryan | November 15, 2014 | Reply

  15. Congratulations, Jane! I, too, have had you as an inseparable part of my mornings for the last (I don’t want to say how many) years. Your voice has egged me to get out of bed when I don’t feel like moving, entertained me on my drive into work — especially when you’re taking on the guys and their idocies — and made me admire you for your strength, courage, attitude, wit, caring and spark. Be happy and enjoy the next chapter. You deserve it! Thanks for the laughs. Wish you and Dom could do one more “Boys Against the Girls” at 6:00 during your last week (but that’s just me). Bon Voyage!

    Comment by Jennifer | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  16. I will miss you but am happy for you as you prepare for this next phase of life. I was blessed to be able to meet you and Dom in person a few years ago as my daughter and I visited on a Friday morning show. Reading your blog about losing your father, and now facing the care of your mother resonated with me because I have lost both my parents within the last 5 years and the grief I have experienced was validated by what you have written. Thank you!

    Comment by Jaye Shomaker | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  17. I’ve spent your entire Denver career listening to you every morning without fail. Sometimes it’s just been on my commute into work and sometimes it’s been the whole show, depending on where I work. I’ve been with you during your ups and downs and, unknown to you, you’ve carried me through mine. On those sad mornings when I would wake up and be dealing with something very difficult, I knew I could always count on you for a laugh and to put me on the right track for the day. You will be missed, but I know you will make the most of this new chapter in your life. I wish the best the Universe has to offer for you.

    Comment by Sher | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  18. We love you Jane and we will miss you so very much! Best of luck of luck in your new chapter.

    Comment by Kelley | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  19. Jane, I will definitely miss you and applaud you for being brave and strong enough to take the next step in your life. I have listened the entire time you have been on the show. Some jobs and commutes allowed me to listen more than others and I was always excited when I got the opportunity to listen more. The show could always make me life and smile no matter what was happening in my little world. Go forth and grow and enjoy the next chapter. May you always have family and friends around to love and support you. Go forth and conquer!

    Comment by Patty | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  20. I had no idea you were moving on. In the busy hustle and bustle that we call our lives it’s easy to take for granted the little things that get us through the days, weeks, months and years. In the short four years I have had the privilege of listen to your morning show it has been those small things; whether it was your light hearted banter with your fellow hosts/hostesses or when you guys would take on serious issues you always were willing to see both sides and I can’t tell you how refreshing that is in this day and age. Everyone is so quick to judge and chastise someone, something or ideal they find wrong or not within their beliefs/stereotypical placements in society. Please enjoy your time for yourself and thank you for gifting me with you insights and gracious being.

    Comment by Erik Silva | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  21. I’ll miss you so much, especially your hearty laugh that gets me going too!
    Enjoy your retirement!!!!! Luv ya!!!

    Comment by Joyce | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  22. This is the SECOND move I’ve seen you do- first was Ohio, now the Denver farewell. I imagine Friday you’re gonna need the ‘off’ button on the mike. That’s gonna be hard.

    Will you at least do some GUEST appearances? Voice-overs? Commercials?

    Good luck kiddo. It’s been a wild ride listening…

    Comment by Mr Wolf | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  23. I wish you and “Prince Charming” nothing but the best in life, and happiness in your retirement. You have made an impact on my life with your banter with Dom, and I understand just how “best friends” touch each other. Your laugh will be missed the most! Best of EVERYTHING!

    Comment by Michael W | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  24. Yes Jane, you have made an impact on my life and I wish you only happiness in your new adventure!

    Comment by Lisa | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  25. I first moved to Denver in my early 20’s for a new job about 10 years ago. Didn’t know a soul and was quite lonely for many months. Listened to the show every morning getting ready for work and driving to work. It meant so much to me. Made me feel like I wasn’t alone in the new scary city. I now have a family of my own and still listen to the show. Won’t be the same without you, Jane! You will be so missed! Wishing you lots of happiness in your next phase:)

    Comment by Jill | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  26. Jane, I first started listening to your show on September 10th, 2001. I was listening the next day on my way to work as you and Dom were reporting the events of that day as they happened. I felt like you guys were like family.

    I also remember seeing you at one of Dom’s book signings – it impressed me that you were not there to speak or even meet people. You were there to support your colleague – pretty cool.

    You will definitely be missed, and I wish you the best. Thanks for lots of great memories!

    Sue W.

    Comment by Sue | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  27. Jane, it’s not only Denverites that will miss you. I live in Brownsville ,Texas. Ever since my dad passed away I have spent the month of July in Denver with my mother ( one of the perks of teaching) and have been a faithful listener while out on my morning runs. When returning to reality I try to listen as often as I can. I will miss your stories and wit! Good luck to you and enjoy your new found freedom!
    Dawn

    Comment by Dawn | November 16, 2014 | Reply

  28. Jane!
    You’re so awesome! I will miss hearing your perspective on life. Every single morning since 1996, I have had the pleasure of starting my day with Dom and Jane!
    I wish you a spectacular life! Thank you for impacting my life!
    Blessings!

    Comment by Lynda | November 17, 2014 | Reply

  29. I’m really going to miss driving to work with you each day. We have shared many of the same losses, and then at other times, you have made me laugh hysterically. Thank you for being a part of my day, and have a great time in your retirement!

    Comment by carol harris | November 17, 2014 | Reply

  30. Jane, just heard while listening to you guys this morning that you’re leaving. I was a little sad and excited at the same time.

    When we moved to Denver from small town, central Michigan 8 years ago, I felt lonely, lost, out of place in the big city…then I came across your radio show and heard you say you were from Michigan and instantly felt connected to you and the show. Your Michigan accent 😉 always seemed to make me feel better and not so far away from all of my family and friends that I missed so much.

    To hear that you’re now returning to The Mitten makes me smile, as my husband, kids, and I are also moving back next year. We can’t wait to return to the Pure Michigan summers, lakes, fall time, and the many beauties of that state. I won’t comment on the glorious winters, lol!

    Anyway, thanks for the comfort and filling a void for me at that time in my life. I wish you the best on your new journey “back home”. Take care 🙂

    Comment by Sara | November 19, 2014 | Reply

  31. Jane, you are doing what I fantasize about! Selfishly, I will so miss listening to you. I’ve laughed, been teary, and appreciated challenges to my own opinions because of your persuasive arguments. Thank you. As a fellow Michigander, I sort of thought of myself as the friend you never knew you had. I have “talked” with you a couple times (via email) about my girlfriend’s weekends in Michigan. I have visualized buying my lake condo and moving back someday. I can see myself walking the beach, dipping my toes in the water, wandering through the gift shops, and finishing the day watching the sun set. Never mind that I have not included my husband in this plan – after all, it is MY fantasy (but I would happily include him!). Then I remember the bone-chilling cold of winter, the gale force lake winds, and mountains of snow and I am jerked back to reality. You will never regret giving this time for your mom…I know I did similar and will always cherish those years. Big hugs to you, Jane. I know you will love unwrapping what this new life will be.

    Comment by Karen Santora | November 20, 2014 | Reply

  32. Dear Jane, you became a part of Brian and my life every morning from when you arrived to when we left Denver for Palm Springs, CA. You always responded to my emails quickly. We both loved the show, and all the present and past personnel have been great, but you added a spark, a dimension that raised the bar a little higher. I can tell you from my own retirement that I have enjoyed the concept of not having to get up and go to work daily. Our lives and those of all your listeners were enriched by your wit and grace. Love you, and peace as you enter a new phase of life.

    Comment by Alan Ochsenbein and Brian Finch | November 22, 2014 | Reply

    • Alan and Brian:
      One of my dear friends lives and performs in Palm Springs. Maybe you’ve seen her? Francesca Amari and if not, go see her and tell her you know me. Mention Battle Creek, MI:) Be well….and thank you for the very kind comments. All the best to you both.
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | November 23, 2014 | Reply

  33. Dear Jane, thank for sharing your journey so honestly. I’m facing living with/dying from a fairly rare form of cancer and trying make what is most important fit in with the life I need to lead to reach my goals. You’re an inspiration. Good luck with your little farm and all of the critters I would wager you will adopt (or who will adopt you). Be well and keep sharing. Your thoughts and musings help.

    Comment by Jennifer | November 22, 2014 | Reply

    • Jennifer,
      All the best to you. My journey is small compared to yours. Please take care and know that speaking of critters, Ember had a run-in with a porcupine this morning…day #2 of retirement and it’s already begun:)
      Be well…be strong!
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | November 23, 2014 | Reply

  34. Jane, I listened to you on WTVN-AM 610 years ago and since your’s and Prince Charming’s move to the ‘D-Town’ I’ve listened online. Being a Browns fan I can;’t say the D word. You understand, I’m sure. Congrats on your retirement, as I retired from Rockwell 9/30. You are a terriffic person. Prince Charming is a lucky guy.

    Bob Krueger
    utica@ecr.net

    Comment by Bob Krueger | December 7, 2014 | Reply

    • Bob
      Thanks for the note. Maybe it will make you feel better to know that we don’t live anywhere near Detroit:)
      Jane

      Comment by janelondon | December 8, 2014 | Reply


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