Present Tense

Love CAN win

love winsLove Wins. The celebratory statement after the Supreme Court’s ruling legalizing marriage equality was handed down this past week. What a beautiful statement in a world that is, as it always has been, burdened by hate. Two simple words that, if taken to heart can transform our existence on this planet.

Which is why I’m here to co-opt that phrase for my spiritually evangelical purposes.

Those two words are what we are missing as we struggle to find our way forward in these very confusing times. The world seems to be exploding in violence and conflict. We are in the middle of another potentially explosive racial divide here in America.

Last week, 9 people died at Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina when a young, white man who was motivated by racial hatred, shot them while telling them they “had to go”.

He spent over an hour with them in Bible study, where they welcomed him into their church and their group with open arms. When he was arraigned on these murders, various family members of the victims showed up to tell him that even though their hearts were broken, they forgave him and would pray for his soul. Love wins.

This is what religion teaches. These people live their faith in a way that most cannot or will not. Most of us call immediately for revenge before justice. We want to strike back at those who cause us pain. It’s all about ‘getting even’. Jesus advised turning the other cheek. Buddha said hate doesn’t dispel hate; only love dispels hate. Dr. Martin Luther King told us that only love can drive out hate. Yet, in times of great pain and anguish, we ignore those who we admire for their wisdom.

I honestly believe that some of the events of the past week may be the beginning of a tipping point toward love winning. I’ve felt such despair over so many global events and issues. I don’t even need to list the things that are happening that cause me to want to weep or vomit every time I read or watch the news. You know. You feel it too, but you feel powerless.

This is why this past week is so powerful. In just a few short years, gay marriage has become not only accepted by a majority of Americans, but it is now the law of the land. I know that many are not happy about it and try as I might, I cannot understand their opposition. How can allowing more commitment, more love, more families to form ever be a sin? How can allowing all of our fellow humans to have the same legal protections that straight humans have had, be a bad thing?

You can of course, remain true to your religious beliefs by following them. All of them. Because it seems to me that Jesus’ main message to his flock was Love Wins. In the face of anger, crime, bigotry, hatred, insults, misunderstanding, miscommunication, impatience, somebody cutting you off in traffic or irritating you by paying with a check at the supermarket, Love Wins.

That’s it. Two words that we all need to adopt as our mantra going forward. WE are the ones that have to fix what’s broken. Don’t rely on politicians or pundits or various know-it-alls who populate our media and culture. YOU. ME. We have to start loving our fellow humans, particularly when they irritate or insult or even attack us.

This is the hard stuff that we have to face as spiritual beings having a human experience. You can think and analyze and ask why, as I often do; as I constantly do. Let me do that for you, if you’d like; it’s a dirty job, but I’m happy to carry that burden. The bottom line is that we need to be more forgiving, more compassionate, more kind and more charitable to the other residents of this planet, be they human, animal, plant, etc.

This week gave us a beautiful lesson in the midst of tragedy and triumph for gay rights. Take this lesson and run with it. Spread it around. Re-think some of your beliefs. Share this blog post freely. Let’s start a bigger movement.

Love Wins.

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  1. Thank you Jane!

    Comment by Dianna Marquez | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  2. Awesome, Jane. Thank you for being an outspoken leader. People look up to you and you make such an impact by your writings.

    Comment by kkapowski1967 | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  3. beautiful!

    Comment by Jenn | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  4. Jane….Ridiculous rulings. SCOTUS & POTUS cannot rule to change thousands of years of marriage. This is the continuation of the destruction of our country’s morality. Ed

    Comment by edspolitics | June 28, 2015 | Reply

    • Ed, you should read up on the history of marriage before making such blanket statements. Also, what is immoral about two consenting adults in love wanting to get married?

      Comment by Ann | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  5. Beautiful!

    Comment by Francesca Amari | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  6. I love it’s simplicity. I love how you remind us that the emotional response is not always the most effective and often leads to more hate and argument about how they are so wrong for their beliefs. It’s a dirty job and you are just the person for the job. Know that I will parallel your efforts over here on the east side.

    Funny how Edpolitics above feels that marriage is such a sacred thing. Heterosexuals have been ripping it to shreds for year to a tune of about 45% divorce rate.

    Comment by Tim Lankerd | June 28, 2015 | Reply

    • Tim
      Thanks…keeping it simple is probably the best way forward for all of us. We tend to twist ourselves into knots over political policies and religious scripture. Be kind, love wins are pretty easy for everyone to understand and remember. And yes, it’s kind of sad that some are completely missing the point of my post and going right back to the same old arguments. That are now settled by law, like it or not.
      Be well, my friend. Just got off the boat.

      Comment by janelondon | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  7. Thank you Jane! I don’t understand why people care what two consenting adults want to do with their lives. It is their soul to do as they see fit.

    SCOTUS was given that authority by the constitution, the president and congress have their own sets of authority. SCOTUS acted on desegregating our schools long before Congress acted, equal rights for all is something we all should receive. Had it been left to the populace on the rights of minorities, the South likely would have been segregated for decades past the SCOTUS decision in my opinion.

    Most importantly the hatred that people carry around only hurts them. Let it go…free your spirit and heart.

    Comment by Mandy | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  8. Thank you Jane!! Love makes a family – ALL kinds of families. This ruling takes nothing away from “traditional families” whatever that means, but rather, adds to the fabric of a strong society. IMHO.

    Comment by Dawn Werner Brandenburg | June 28, 2015 | Reply

  9. Amen Jane! This is what I try to instill in, teach to and model for my four children everyday. You said it beautifully and I will share your post!

    Comment by meredith | July 1, 2015 | Reply

  10. Wonderfully written. And thank you for not bashing the Christian faith. I am a Christian, but have no problem with anyone who wants to love each other, to do just that. Thank you for not lumping us all into the “my way or Hell” category. Hugs my friend.

    Comment by shellybelly12 | July 3, 2015 | Reply

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